FetLife

Fetlife is above all else a community of wonderfully diverse and perverse individuals. These guidelines aim to give you a feel of how we expect people in the community to behave. They are pretty much all common sense, and do not cover every scenario (on the grounds we wanted them to be readable!). Hopefully, however, you will get from them the spirit of the site. Fetlife is your kinky online home. It is a place where you can express your opinions, share your kink or fetish and learn about the lifestyle without being judged.

Continued membership of Fetlife is based on the Terms of Use and these guidelines. Behave in an inappropriate manner and we will give you a prod to get you back on the community track, keep doing it and we will kick you out. You don't want that, we don't want that, so if you don't feel you can moderate your behaviour as outlined below, then maybe Fetlife isn't for you.

So...

Enjoy yourself

It's a community! See the world through others' eyes, participate in conversations, find a special friend to share your kink, expand your horizons! Enjoy yourself.

Play nice

We're a community of many types of people, with many kinks and fetishes. Not everyone here will think what you think, believe what you believe or see what you see. Tolerance, understanding, politeness and respect in your communications goes a long way to making this a pleasant place to be.

Any personal attacks, flaming, insulting, bullying… pretty much any type of disrespectful behavior that degrades the quality of discussions and people's experience… will not be accepted.

Be Open Minded and Non-Judgemental

You are likely to see/read things in Fetlife that offend you (it's part of what makes Fetlife the wonderful place it is). Being judgemental or closed-minded is rarely helpful - either just click away from what offends you, or maybe engage in conversation, start a dialogue. Who knows, what offends you today may rock your world tomorrow...

Uploaded content

Please only upload content that you have created yourself or have permission to use. Passing off other people's work as you own, or posting pictures of people without their permission is not what this community is about.

Take responsibility

If you feel someone is not acting in the spirit of these guidelines, why not just drop them a (polite) line giving them a friendly prod? A lot of the time, these things are down to simple misunderstandings, and a quiet word is all that is needed to get things back on track. If that fails, then by all means contact the Fetlife moderators, and we will take it from there. Don't be tempted to publish blow-by-blow accounts of what is going on - it rarely helps and in fact often hinders a successful resolution.

In short, enjoy Fetlife in a reasonable adult manner, apply common sense and a spot of good judgement and you won't go far wrong.